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This post is a response to this article that was published on Thought Catalog. It’s somewhat of an old article and I meant to post this awhile ago but never got around to it. I still wanted to get it off my chest. So here we go…
Too often I see men asserting themselves — both online and in person — about how women shouldn’t wear makeup. Granted, this is not all men and not all men are pig-headed about it. Some men do prefer women with a more natural look. This is their prerogative and isn’t unlike me saying that I tend to prefer dark haired men to blondes. This is not invalid. We all have our preferences and we’re all physically attracted to different things.
However, there is a difference between having preferences and being judgmental toward a large percentage of an entire gender for something as simple as the way a woman chooses to present herself.
The author of the article to which I am responding not only insinuates that women wear makeup in order to mask insecurity, but he also assumes that women who wear makeup have no ambition outside of appearance. This highly derogatory opinion piece blatantly tells women to get an education and develop hobbies. Apparently I am not able to function as a human being while I’m wearing eye shadow.
Now, I don’t assume that this one man’s opinion makes up a majority of men’s opinions. I don’t tend to make sweeping statements about large groups of people if those statements are not shrouded in actual facts. That being said, I have heard the “women shouldn’t wear makeup” argument more than once and I think the biggest problem is a lack of understanding.
I can’t speak for every woman, but I can speak for myself and for some of the friends with whom I’ve had discussions on this subject. I don’t wear makeup to find a man. I don’t wear makeup because I think I’m a hideous person and I’m trying to mask all my flaws. I’m not trying to “be someone else.” It isn’t a matter of insecurity or desperation. I wear makeup because I prefer myself with makeup. It’s that simple. Makeup is a way for me to express myself. My choice to wear makeup and the type of makeup I wear should not be separated from the other ways I express myself – such as my choice of hairstyle, clothes, the way I decorate my room, the type of car I drive, etc.
My decision to wear makeup (or not to wear makeup) does not need to be substantiated by anyone other than me. We all choose to express ourselves in different ways and for different reasons. The reason I wear makeup may differ from reasons that other people do – and that’s fine. It might be something that some people do not understand or prefer, but this should not be anyone else’s concern except for the person who the face in question belongs to.
I do not like football. However, I do not fault people who get really into it and deck themselves out from head to toe in their favorite team’s gear on game day. It’s a hobby/interest that I don’t share, but that doesn’t invalidate their reasoning behind doing what they do.
Another part of the argument that bothers me is the assumption that women wear makeup for other people rather than for themselves. Have I taken extra time to make sure that my makeup looked especially good for certain occasions – like first dates and job interviews? Of course I have. However, I don’t see this as being any different than a man paying extra attention to make sure he gets a clean shave on his neck or making sure his tie is on straight. It is human nature for us to want to look our best if we’re trying to make a good impression. We all have our routines for trying to look like the best versions of ourselves, and none of us should fault anyone else because that person’s routine differs from our own.
At the end of the day, it comes down to our own personal opinions and convictions. No, not every woman is going to wear makeup. Not every man is going to be drawn to a woman who wears makeup. Neither of these things needs explaining. But just as the choice to wear no makeup or to dislike makeup are completely valid lifestyles and opinions, my choice to wear makeup it just as valid. It doesn’t matter the reason why I wear makeup. It is my face and it’s up to me how I choose to present that face to the world. And I’m glad that I live in a world that allows me to do so.
|My natural reddish blonde hair when I was little|
|Natural red hair at one of the most awkward times in my life|
|Red hair from a box|
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