Remember when I said I was going to start a new blog series about adulting? Well, I failed to properly adult and I kind of forgot about it for almost two months. Please excuse me.
Today I am bringing you the second post in the How To: Adulting series. Maybe I’ll have a third post before next year! Big dreams.
The topic of the day is, as you probably gathered from the title of this post, dealing with difficult people. Today’s post was inspired by a wonderful woman at work who always brings out the best in me.*
*this is sarcastic. She brings the worst out in everyone. EVERYONE.
For no reason at all, this woman — who works in a different department and a different building from me, thank God in Heaven — decided to reign down her rampant negativity today. And, to be honest, it caused me to have a bad day.
I’m not going to get into the specifics of what was said, but I will say that I wish I’d handled it better. I didn’t go off on this woman, but I did snap at another coworker for something very minor because of my irritation from this other situation. In other words, I basically did exactly what she did to me to someone else. I eventually calmed down (after a bout of intense laughing — which is better than intense crying, I must say) and apologized. I think a few of my coworkers, who had never seen me upset, might think I’m batty now. But that’s another story.
Here’s my biggest piece of advice for dealing with difficult people.
It is a piece of advice that I am constantly trying to remember. Be the bigger person. Honestly, killing them with kindness is the best revenge. Live well. Be happy. Be positive and rise above it.
Because, honestly, this will drive them crazy. Sometimes difficult people want nothing more than to rattle your cage and lower your defenses. They want to assert some kind of power over you and this often comes out of their own self esteem issues.
Don’t give anyone satisfaction by sinking down to their level.
This is great for you because, obviously, it makes you the mature, sophisticated one. It saves you from getting wrapped up in unwanted drama and arguments. It prevents a lot of needless headaches.
My plans for future interactions with this woman are twofold. A. I will not let her bring me down. I will recognize that the fault does not lie with me and that jumping to anger solves nothing. B. If I do get upset, I will not spread this anger to other people in my life. Because I am better than that.
I encourage everyone else to do the same. Even the 2011, redheaded version of me believes in you:
How do you deal with difficult people?
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