In the spirit of people being offended by things as innocuous as a red coffee cup design, I’ve decided to join in and talk about things I find offensive! It’s a pretty short list as I’m not easily offended. I often find raunchy jokes hilarious. I’m also pretty politically centrist, so I often see both sides of political issues. Thus I’m not often offended by opinions that differ from mine because I can usually see where that person is coming from.
But, because I’m a human, there are some things people say that do offend me. Here is a list of those things.
“You’ll change your mind about having children one day.”
No. No no no. I’m not saying that I will never want kids. It’s possible that, once I’m married and settled down, I might see myself having children. At this juncture in my life, that seems unlikely. Giving birth seems even more unlikely than maybe adoption — but I’ll agree that people can change their minds during different periods of their life.
But it is not up to you to tell me what I’m going to want. This type of talk also implies that all women are eventually going to want children, when that is 100% not the case. Some of us are not very nurturing by nature and some of us just don’t see our lives going down that path. And that’s ok — because there are plenty of other wonderful women who are filling those motherly roles.
“You’ll find a husband who will take care of you.”
I very much do want to find a husband someday, but I do not want a husband so I’ll have someone to take care of me. I’ve been doing a pretty decent job of taking care of myself during my twenties.
When I get married, I plan on marrying someone who agrees that marriage is a partnership where both parties take care of each other and where we will continue to take care of ourselves.
“Women aren’t funny.”
Ex-squeeze me? I think that Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, Kristen Wiig, Amy Schumer, Mindy Kaling, Chelsea Peretti, Nasim Pedrad, and scores of others would beg to differ.
Why can’t women be funny? Why is it 2015 and this is still a thing that people say?
“Food service jobs are easy.”
Again: no. Food service jobs do not require prior experience, are fairly easy to come by, and don’t pay very well. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t challenging.
I worked for 9-ish years at Pizza Hut and I will say this — there are some people who can’t do it. I worked at a low volume store, but we had certain people who would get hired and only last a matter of weeks or a month before they quit. Sometimes they just never caught on — whether it be just speed or the whole concept of putting toppings on pizzas. I don’t know.
I didn’t personally find the actual work difficult, but it could certainly be challenging on a busy night when you had someone call in and you don’t get a break all night. I hate when people write off these types of jobs as “easy” just because it’s employment that you can obtain while you’re still in high school.
I went on a date with a guy once who made a comment about food service jobs not being “real jobs.” We didn’t go out again.
“Dogs are better than cats.”
Because, duh, they aren’t.